Families Like Ours: even pelicans have two dads

Having two dads isn’t the norm.  It’s true.  But gosh, it would be nice if we ran into more families like ours out there.  We do what we can to raise our kids just like any other parents do, but as they grow, we’ve got an extra step of calling out our family situation.  We […]

Family Travel vs. Gay Family Travel

Originally written for GaysWithKids.com It’s funny.  As I think about traveling as a gay man or as part of a gay family, I try to consider what makes our travels gay.  Yeah, um, it’s just that we’re gay; nothing else.  I was sitting here analyzing our adventures and writing and realized that our journeys aren’t […]

Fathers’ Day: planning for two dads

Holidays are a strange phenomenon.  We set aside a day to specifically think about a topic and then gather with people to celebrate it, aka cook food we don’t normally.  Christmas makes sense because clearly you’re either celebrating the birth of Jesus or you’re celebrating your own sense of how well you know others by […]

Gay Family Travels: 3 things to know about being a traveling rainbow

Originally written for GaysWithKids.com My husband and I aren’t shy people.  We do karaoke, take the kids to nice restaurants, wear Euro-style swim trunks, hold hands as a family in public…  You know, we’re not crazy but we’re not shy.  This includes traveling to potentially homophobic places.  We don’t intentionally put ourselves and our kids […]

So many aquariums: 4 ways to decide if they’re worth your time (and our faves)

We’re big on aquariums in our house.  We have a local one that’s free and open only 4 days a week…and we go EVERY week.  Seattle has one that’s a boat ride away and we’ve been pass holders.  Tacoma has one that is paired with a zoo and that’s just a quick drive away.  And […]

Bringing Kids into THIS World

I remember each person’s reaction when we told them that we were having a baby.  Most people were shocked, followed by full of joy and wow and OMG.  There were those that just couldn’t process it because, I mean, gay guys raising a baby?  And then there was one reaction that really stuck with me.  […]

Building Our Family

Once upon a time… Back in 2009 one of our friends randomly mentioned to us “Hey, do you guys want kids?  Cuz my cousin mentioned that she’d be interested in being a surrogate in the future…”  Well, we met and it was a perfect fit.  She was amazing, she had sarcastic wit, and she possessed […]

Why Write About Life and Travels

Fifteen years ago today I graduated high school.  It was not thrilling, but just another day that meant that life continued on, but without school.  I had no clue what was going to happen for me. That was my life:  no clear direction.  Why do I mention that it’s been 15 years since high school?  […]