Because babies: a thank you to the NICU nurses

We’re taking a break from sharing about travel to share something completely different and for the people involved, infinitely more impactful. We’ve partnered with Huggies to share a few stories and some big thank yous for the staff of NICUs around the country.  We were very fortunate with both of our boys having very smooth […]

Saving for the future: making travel and early retirement attainable

Our notes here about saving for the future originally appeared on GaysWithKids.com, which is a great resource for families and same-sex couples looking to take the plunge into parenthood. Recently, we saw some online promotion and hashtags around saving up for the future and just general thoughts on good practices with money.  Chris and I […]

Our Christmas tree tradition: from travel ornaments to sustainable farms

Well, Thanksgiving came and went in a flash which means that it’s time to wrap up our year… but not before we do our one and only Christmas tradition:  doing the Christmas tree.  Decorating a Christmas tree as a family has become one of our absolute favorite activities out of everything we do over the […]

Making travel plans for the USA: an expat’s view of visiting home in America

We’ve written several times about what we look for in a destination, from activities to cost to previous visits.  We’re pretty good at making travel decisions together to create the most fun vacations for our kids.  Following the recent election of Donald Trump to the presidency of the United States we were very curious how […]

Travel vs Sending kids to school – the big debate

September means something different for every family.  Most parents (and kids) are totally in school mode, but not us.  We’re still in the days of enjoying the last weeks of summer and keeping busy with travel and house projects.  Come next year though, we’ll be sending kids to school for the first time… or will […]

Having a Baby via Surrogacy: roadblocks and success

Before we dig into our family’s story and how we came to be the fun crew we are today, remember that having a baby via surrogacy is a strange and bumpy path, particularly for people living in places with either very conservative laws or health systems that aren’t as progressive as ours in Washington State. […]

National Parks: what are they and why do we care?

Once upon a time (1872), in a faraway place (Washington, DC), there lived a mediocre looking prince named Ulysses S Grant.  He was the President of the United States.  At this time and a bit before, there was a group of people that had explored the Yellowstone area of Wyoming and convinced congress and the […]

Families Like Ours: even pelicans have two dads

Having two dads isn’t the norm.  It’s true.  But gosh, it would be nice if we ran into more families like ours out there.  We do what we can to raise our kids just like any other parents do, but as they grow, we’ve got an extra step of calling out our family situation.  We […]

What Experience Has Taught Me

I was challenged by a travel blogger that I really respect, Alba Luna, to do this post.  She did one very similar and, like with her other posts, it was well written and inspiring.  A bar has been set rather high for me to really dig into myself and do a good job sharing what […]

Family Travel vs. Gay Family Travel

Originally written for GaysWithKids.com It’s funny.  As I think about traveling as a gay man or as part of a gay family, I try to consider what makes our travels gay.  Yeah, um, it’s just that we’re gay; nothing else.  I was sitting here analyzing our adventures and writing and realized that our journeys aren’t […]

The Columbia Gorge: driving the northern road

One of our favorite movies of all time is Maverick, starring Jodie Foster and Mel Gibson.  I don’t know if it’s the humor, the ridiculous story or what, but if nothing else, there’s a lot to be said of the scenery.  Deserts, prairies, cliffs, buttes, winding rivers.  It’s amazing.  If you’ve ever been to eastern Washington, […]

Fathers’ Day: planning for two dads

Holidays are a strange phenomenon.  We set aside a day to specifically think about a topic and then gather with people to celebrate it, aka cook food we don’t normally.  Christmas makes sense because clearly you’re either celebrating the birth of Jesus or you’re celebrating your own sense of how well you know others by […]

Gay Family Travels: 3 things to know about being a traveling rainbow

Originally written for GaysWithKids.com My husband and I aren’t shy people.  We do karaoke, take the kids to nice restaurants, wear Euro-style swim trunks, hold hands as a family in public…  You know, we’re not crazy but we’re not shy.  This includes traveling to potentially homophobic places.  We don’t intentionally put ourselves and our kids […]

Camping: how long is too long?

We are heading out on our first camping trip as a family of four in just one month.  We’ve booked a cabin halfway to our destination to break up the drive, and we’ve booked our reservations in Yellowstone National Park (camping for four nights).  That’s it.  We have no other reservations anywhere.  Why not (I […]

Flying Solo: a one-parent road trip

I’m used to individual parenting. I mean, I’m home alone with the kids most of the time and I’m fine dealing with random tantrums and epic breakdowns with no logic behind them. When I’m on the road though and I’m staying in somebody else’s house, yeah no.  At home I’m the epitome of patience and […]

So many aquariums: 4 ways to decide if they’re worth your time (and our faves)

We’re big on aquariums in our house.  We have a local one that’s free and open only 4 days a week…and we go EVERY week.  Seattle has one that’s a boat ride away and we’ve been pass holders.  Tacoma has one that is paired with a zoo and that’s just a quick drive away.  And […]

Bringing Kids into THIS World

I remember each person’s reaction when we told them that we were having a baby.  Most people were shocked, followed by full of joy and wow and OMG.  There were those that just couldn’t process it because, I mean, gay guys raising a baby?  And then there was one reaction that really stuck with me.  […]

Building Our Family

Once upon a time… Back in 2009 one of our friends randomly mentioned to us “Hey, do you guys want kids?  Cuz my cousin mentioned that she’d be interested in being a surrogate in the future…”  Well, we met and it was a perfect fit.  She was amazing, she had sarcastic wit, and she possessed […]

Why Write About Life and Travels

Fifteen years ago today I graduated high school.  It was not thrilling, but just another day that meant that life continued on, but without school.  I had no clue what was going to happen for me. That was my life:  no clear direction.  Why do I mention that it’s been 15 years since high school?  […]