Want to know about us? Sure! Why not?! We are Chris and Rob Taylor, 2TravelDads, and we’re all about taking our sons out into the world and experiencing it as an LGBT family, learning about culture, having great food, and playing in the sand.
Who are 2TravelDads
Chris and I (I’m Rob, Hi!) have been together for 10+ years. We’ve been legally married since 2013. Before kids we were just another couple exploring the world, but now with our little dudes, we’re 2TravelDads… and we keep on traveling.
We contribute to a variety of blogs and news outlets, and have been featured by GaysWithKids, Gay Star News and Yonderbound. The Huffington Post listed us as one of the “world’s top male travel bloggers”. We’re based in the Seattle area, but our next stop: everywhere else… What else do you want to know about 2TravelDads?
Journeys of the two dads
Together, Chris and I have traveled through Europe, Mexico, the US and Canada. We’re not fancy, but when the opportunity presents itself, we definitely opt for a lush hotel with a nice pool over “old world charm”. We will deal with a scary room in a pinch. We will camp in odd places. We’re not afraid of taking our kids on adventures.
When the two dads are at home
I get to be a stay-at-home-dad. Chris brings home the bacon (aka has an actual paying career). Here at home I’ve got my tiny helpers that look after the garden and chase me around the yard. I like to build things, mostly frames and furniture, out of reclaimed or drift wood. I also paint (watercolor and acrylic) and lead workshops. I enjoy blogging about being a dad, about travel, and about painting.
Questions for the two dads
Please feel free to reach out via email or comment. We’ll do our best to respond in a timely manner, but remember, we have other lives to watch over which may delay follow up.
The two dads’ mission beyond traveling
Despite amazing progress in LGBT acceptance and normalizing our community as a welcoming part of life, there’s still so much work to be done. This year, we faced more opposition and backlash than we ever thought possible or might ever have to deal with.
What did we get hit with?
We received more than 200 instances of being called a pedophile, being called awful names, getting threats about having the kids taken away and more than 50 death threats. And that’s just what came through to us via email, blog comments, Twitter and Facebook.
Why? We are the face of Tylenol and their part in LGBT activism. I’m so thankful they were aware of what was happening and trying to prevent it from hitting us, but of everything that the internet was spewing, they couldn’t stop all of it.
They were blocking and reporting the public threats as they happened, which we didn’t even know they were doing it at the time. In a conference call they apologized for the ones they couldn’t catch, which then made us realize how many they were able to actually stop and report, and we decided together to keep on working together and to show the world #HowWeFamily.
Why are we sharing this now?
We all know people (besides us) who are gay or Muslim or in an inter-racial relationship or so many other things. You have NO IDEA what other people are facing and what’s impacting them. You don’t know how they’ve been damaged by others’ actions and comments in the past. We need to spread the message of shutting down thoughtless talk and hate speech, even when somebody may not intend to be downright hurtful.
Following the initial burst of threats and harassment, I was brought onto the Anthony Cumia Show, a syndicated radio broadcast. He made a tweet about the Tylenol ad which then spiraled immediately and generated more than 50 tweets and tags calling us pedophiles and saying awful, horrible sexual things about the kids. He talked about the situation earlier on his show and then apologized directly for the turmoil he created.
We talked about comedy and he said how comedians don’t have time to think about the repercussions of their jokes. He said that he can’t predict what’s going to happen fifteen steps down the line. I told him him that it was only one step away from him. I said that’s why you have to think about what you say, especially because most of us in the LGBT community have experienced thoughtless jokes and comments our whole lives and we know where they head. Even paired with his apology he said that he could’ve made another joke right now but didn’t. Great. Just saying that is still a damaging statement which perpetuates the problem.
All of this applies to everyone in any aspect of life. Sorry, it doesn’t matter if it was just a joke; that joke is so much more. The point of sharing all this: be brave and shut people down who are saying awful things or making dumb jokes. Don’t be tolerant of little things that you think “oh, I wouldn’t have said that” or laugh when somebody chuckles at the stupid things Donald Trump says.
Until this situation occured it didn’t sink in for me why Pride and social campaigns are so important in making change in this world. The one or two harassing comments we get per week are nothing compared to the full arsenal of what people think, will say, or would do. There are so many more people in this world that are full of hate and intolerance than any of us can comprehend. It’s tough to take the high road sometimes, but the payoff is much greater than you know.
We will be fine. Words are words. In the meantime, don’t sit silently when you hear something thoughtless or damaging. Shut it down.
If everybody stopped others from being hurtful, imagine how much better life would be for all of us.
More about the two dads and our philosophy
Here is an interview we did with HeyMissAdventures.com all about us and our views on travel with kids:
Give us a short background of your family: We are two dads and two sons, living just outside of Seattle in the USA. We love camping, hiking, swimming and traveling with our kids. We’ve been together for 10+ years and have lived up and down the West Coast.
Do you travel full time or part time? When did you start and why?: We travel part time, with 4 or 5 big trips each year and then maximizing our weekends together. We were always big travelers, and then when we had kids we saw how important it was to keep this up. Traveling as a family helps to keep us sane while giving the kids a more broad view of the world.
How do you afford to travel as a family? Do you also work on the road?: We afford our travel through basic saving, as well as tacking on days to work trips. Example: Paris for work, add a week of vacation time since the company has already paid for the flight.
How do you plan out your trips? Do you particularly choose those “family-friendly” or “kid-friendly” destinations or are you flexible and just simply adapt to the place?: We plan our trips based on what we haven’t seen in the world. We do have our tried and true favorites (Cabo San Lucas, Mexico or Yellowstone National Park, USA) but we love exploring new places together. It’s rare to find a destination that’s not kid-friendly…except maybe Ibiza.
What is that one item you can never travel without when you are with kids?: We always have some sort of sound machine. We either bring an actual device or use an app on our iPad or phone. It’s very important that kids sleep well when traveling and being in a new place every time they sleep could spell disaster, but this saves us!
There are varied opinions when it comes to learning while traveling VS. formal schooling. What is your stand on this? Does travelling really give an advantage to your kid’s education, based on experience?: If a parent is able to teach their kids effectively, travel schooling can work out well. Traveling absolutely impacts a child’s view of the world, including the notions they preconceive of those they meet. Exposing kids to a variety of people and histories is an amazing tool. Travel is the best classroom and a child who’s seen more than their own town will better understand life and the different people they’ll meet. We won’t be travel schooling our kids because we have a solid home-base where we must reside, but if somebody else can do it, fantastic!
What advice would you give to families who want to start out a travelling lifestyle?: Just start. You cannot perfect your traveling style and know how to do it well just by reading other peoples’ blogs. You have to pack up the kids and go. Catch a plane. Jump on a boat. Hit the road. There is no better teacher than experience.